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Mentally healthy people are often delusionally optimistic.

sometimes the saddest thing a person can lose is their ability to believe things will get better. when that happens, everything starts feeling heavier than it really is. you start doubting yourself before you even try. you expect disappointment before anything even happens. most people don’t fail because they’re incapable. they fail because their mind keeps replaying every rejection, every mistake, every painful moment like it’s proof nothing will ever work out. reverse that. remember every time you survived something hard. every time you figured it out. every moment life hit you hard and you still kept moving forward. every comeback. that changes a person. because optimism isn’t pretending life is perfect. it’s looking at everything you’ve already made it through and believing maybe you’ll make it through this too.

Nicholas Fabiano, MD @NTFabiano

3 months ago

Mentally healthy people are often delusionally optimistic.

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