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Another mother ignored, another baby dead 😔 “I was worried about my baby, but I felt like I was treated as a pest. I had a condition which can be serious, but no one was really concerned. We were that close to having her, and then we lost her; it destroyed us.”
Another mother ignored, another baby dead 😔 “I was worried about my baby, but I felt like I was treated as a pest. I had a condition which can be serious, but no one was really concerned. We were that close to having her, and then we lost her; it destroyed us.”
Happy 2nd Heavenly Birthday to our beautiful Granddaughter Margot 💫🕊️ loved and missed so very much x
If maternity staff are sick of being collectively blamed for the traumas caused to mothers and babies by negligent members of their profession, there's a simple solution: speak out and blow the whistle on negligent, uncaring and/or incompetent colleagues. You know who they are.
If maternity staff are sick of being collectively blamed for the traumas caused to mothers and babies by negligent members of their profession, there's a simple solution: speak out and blow the whistle on negligent, uncaring and/or incompetent colleagues. You know who they are.
You can have all the Ockenden and Kirkup reports that you want but NOTHING will change while the bereaved, survivors and their families are held in such contempt by some practitioners….
You can have all the Ockenden and Kirkup reports that you want but NOTHING will change while the bereaved, survivors and their families are held in such contempt by some practitioners….
I would like to pay tribute to all the bereaved parents who lead quiet battles. Some scared to jeopardise the legal processes they're going through, some who choose to keep their stories private. From their messages, it's the love for their children which shines through.
I would like to pay tribute to all the bereaved parents who lead quiet battles. Some scared to jeopardise the legal processes they're going through, some who choose to keep their stories private. From their messages, it's the love for their children which shines through.
A timely reminder to support @Safe_Maternity campaign for a national inquiry. When we have reacted a point where midwives publicly state women lie about fetal movements to get an induction whilst babies die when women who report reduced fetal movement aren't believed, it is…
I've spoken to far too many mums whose babies died after they sought help for reduced fetal movements. They weren't taken seriously. I've wondered for a while HOW such a well understood massive red flag could be ignored - is this the answer? Some HCPs think women are lying?
I've spoken to far too many mums whose babies died after they sought help for reduced fetal movements. They weren't taken seriously. I've wondered for a while HOW such a well understood massive red flag could be ignored - is this the answer? Some HCPs think women are lying?
This has been a most illuminating exchange. Alexa ... why are U.K. maternity outcomes so poor?
This has been a most illuminating exchange. Alexa ... why are U.K. maternity outcomes so poor?
The utter contempt for pregnant women in the replies to this thread from some midwives/hcps is quite something! Women are 'playing the system', wanting iol is 'catching', they can't tolerate waiting, they don't understand. These are the same people who claim to 'with women' 🙄.
The utter contempt for pregnant women in the replies to this thread from some midwives/hcps is quite something! Women are 'playing the system', wanting iol is 'catching', they can't tolerate waiting, they don't understand. These are the same people who claim to 'with women' 🙄.
@CroslandCharles @Laurenncaul @LeedsHospitals @BTHFT @EmilyJBarley @Safe_Maternity I agree. It’s basic mathematics and basics in care; but instead they allow the money and more importantly, people’s lives to keep going down the drain. The cycle will be allowed to keep perpetuating until people are properly held to account.
Baby Grace and her family failed by Leeds Teaching Hospitals Trust and Bradford Hospitals.
Baby Grace and her family failed by Leeds Teaching Hospitals Trust and Bradford Hospitals.
With the government claim to be cracking down on “sick note culture” I gave my opinion Yes, there are those who play the system but to stigmatize people who would love not to be in pain, depressed or disabled? Let’s not blame the sick for the financial woes of this country
During a complaint, the medical world likes to gaslight patients by denying and dismissing their symptoms or injury. They also like to stonewall patients refusing to answer questions by being as evasive as possible. It's not only an abuse of power, it's psychological abuse.
More extremely concerning info on @LeedsHospitals maternity - their perinatal mortality rate is significantly worse than similar hospitals. ...and they've quietly deleted more info on neonatal deaths from their website. (See Pete's other replies) x.com/pete_finch/sta…
More extremely concerning info on @LeedsHospitals maternity - their perinatal mortality rate is significantly worse than similar hospitals. ...and they've quietly deleted more info on neonatal deaths from their website. (See Pete's other replies) x.com/pete_finch/sta…
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@catherineroyuk Horrendous. Negligently deficient fetal monitoring. Again. Heart-felt condolences and sincere thoughts to these poor parents. How many more?.....🥺
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How would you know if they don’t have RFM? Did you have them attached to a CTG/Dawes Redman for days to determine if they’re lying? Women know their own body and baby better than any HCP or any other individual.
@LucyGoBag @MsKirstySmith @NicolaLPotts @sheena_byrom Quite a lot of deletions here but the internet never forgets and I keep receipts 😈
Completely agree. After losing Grace I tried to get support from the perinatal MH team as they were who I knew and was refused because I no longer had a baby. It took me a long time to ask for help again and it wasn’t offered by anyone, I had to seek it.
This is great - but should be a standard offer for all families affected by avoidable harm in maternity services - no matter which trust the harm occured in. We should be strieving for equity & a gold standard of support for all. bbc.co.uk/news/uk-englan…
Such an important point made here! If (and I do not for one second believe women are lying to get IOL) women are doing this it means they’re not being listened to about their concerns and would be using this as a last resort. How about we just listen to women?
Thanks for speaking up about this Alex - the belief that women might be falsely reporting RFM in order to persuade their maternity team to ‘allow’ IOL is alarming for so many reasons. Women should never be doubted & frankly, if there was a situation where women felt so…
@JamesTitcombe I completely agree, this always seems to be overlooked in the "they're making it up to get an induction" statement. Why? Is it because other concerns are not being heard? Why should someone fake a symptom?
@FionaWinserRamm Thank you that’s so kind ❤️ yes she should be here, just as your beautiful Aliona should be and too many others xx
Thanks for speaking up about this Alex - the belief that women might be falsely reporting RFM in order to persuade their maternity team to ‘allow’ IOL is alarming for so many reasons. Women should never be doubted & frankly, if there was a situation where women felt so…
@bmywns This annoys me to my core. There are plenty of studies that describe that presentation with reduced fetal movements is a considered decision see here - pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/27671523/ I have yet to see a single qual study document that women want to fake symptoms to play the system.
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“A theme we have fed back to the Trust that we do still hear of is women not being believed when they say they are in labour.”
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@WattTheNag I think it speaks to how untouchable some feel - and for good reason, since there's virtually no accountability in maternity.
@EmilyJBarley As a parent and someone who works in healthcare (not maternity) it worries me that a health professional would actually have this conversation in the public domain. I wonder what the NMC would make of that.
@EmilyJBarley @Katieabcgirl This sums it up perfectly. If you're assertive, you're "aggressive", if you're distressed, you're "over-dramatic", if you're quiet and calm, then there's probably nothing wrong, and if something bad happens it's your fault for not speaking up. We've heard all of these many times.