The way people talk about relationships on social media now it’s evident people don’t understand this. It makes dating hard bc people think the first bump you hit is a bad sign, they leave, and then miss out on the opportunity to repair and be that much stronger together
The way people talk about relationships on social media now it’s evident people don’t understand this. It makes dating hard bc people think the first bump you hit is a bad sign, they leave, and then miss out on the opportunity to repair and be that much stronger together
Yes! And it’s an active daily choice of who you want to do that with (you could love someone but decide they’re not the right person to do life with…for this reason. You need both). But people run at the first sign of conflict (I get it, I’ve been there before) because there’s no language around how to navigate this sh*t. Media (social, TV, etc) romanticizes all of it. What I’ve learned is most important and the key differentiator is the big 3: - How you react in the moment - How you repair after - How you respond going forward Your partner is a mirror for you to unlearn a lot of what you’ve been given. Through conflict you repair. Through repair you build safety, trust, teamwork (Us vs Problem). We ain’t getting to old and gray any other way.
@tiffani The whole 🚩discourse has been exhausting for YEARS
@tiffani I’m convinced 20+ years of reality shows have made ppl confuse marriage with *wedding.* Folks are always hyping the day, not the days after.
@tiffani When we got married our pastor told us “marriage is a job. You can love it but it’s still work.”