If folks are really out here thinking a good and healthy relationship is free from conflict and tension. It definitely explains a lot. Even the healthiest and loving relationships, especially long-term, are not free from times of heavy lifting.
In my last marriage, which was 20 years. We weathered a long-distance move, drastic financial changes, death of parents, career changes, a child, plus the changes that happen from your 20's to 40's. What do people think happens in marriage?
@blackgirlinmain People don't know the difference between fairy tale and reality. Knowing the difference between life's natural hardships and disrespect are relationship hacks that aren't taught.
@blackgirlinmain Yeah there's absolutely no long term without some heavy. Til death do us part? Plan on it. That's the plan!
@blackgirlinmain So many families think constructive criticism is so scary and bad. Little do they know the insane compliance or weirdness is much more damaging.
@blackgirlinmain Really it also explains a lot about what feels like a larger tendency toward emotional immaturity/lack of self awareness in our culture too. Some of the most significant grown and depened connection can come from approaching conflict in a healthy way.
@blackgirlinmain They really don’t know. I’ve learned a lot in almost 20 years married. More about myself than anything.
@blackgirlinmain If I had to explain to a therapist what me and the hubs unpacked in the last 24 hours, their head would likely explode. Not going into details, but some really fun stuff is maybe gonna happen soon, so it's all good 😁😁😁😁😁