My theory: As with inflated fears of car jacking & home invasion, most suburban paranoia scenarios are actually fantasies ("the bad other wants what I have"). Once stripped of defensive distortions, this fantasy looks to me like narcissism: "I am desired / we are desirable."
My theory: As with inflated fears of car jacking & home invasion, most suburban paranoia scenarios are actually fantasies ("the bad other wants what I have"). Once stripped of defensive distortions, this fantasy looks to me like narcissism: "I am desired / we are desirable."
everyone- I mean everyone- wants to feel that their life could be envied by some imaginary onlooker; our self-worth is rooted in this interpersonal network. The fantasy of "the person who wants what I have" is fundamentally pleasurable- it says "I'm worth something" to someone.