The thing about Adhd people not missing people is a lie. When I remember people I miss them terribly.
I honestly dunno if what I'm feeling is the same as what Neurotypicals feel. I know I tend to think of activities that I miss doing with someone rather than just the person themselves. Like I had a friend I used to paint with and a friend I used to go to concerts with.
@humanbeingawk yeah I don’t think it’s universal. i, unfortunately, don’t miss people but i would fully expect all of us to have a mix and match bag of traits.
@humanbeingawk So is it an ADHD thing where you find it difficult to stay in touch with people if you're not actively seeing them to do activities? Genuine question due to an old friend. Found it too difficult to stay in contact once we went off to different universities
@humanbeingawk I always wondered why I could drop my kids at daycare/school and then forget they existed for the next 8 hours. Freaked me out a bit. Object permanence?
@humanbeingawk The thing is the remembering part. It's not that we don't MISS people, it's just that we forget to talk to them and when we remember it's already been awhile
@humanbeingawk I have both Autism and ADHD and I cannot express enough the sincere and genuinely agonizing heartbreak I feel at the loss of friends and past partners in my life. I never stop feeling the deepest attachment to them and deep pain at the loss of them. ADHD comes in many shapes.
@humanbeingawk The "oh shit I haven't spoken to them in 3 days" "do they still want me?" , just hits different
@humanbeingawk Like it’s not that I don’t miss them it’s just I don’t remember that i do
@humanbeingawk 100%, this. As someone with ADHD, it’s never that I don’t miss someone. My mind just goes a million miles per hour and I get overwhelmed. But once I slow down and remember, I think “Man, I missed you so much. We need to hang out.”