"LISTENING PROBLEM" ✨an ADHD poem✨ Excuse me. Look at me when I’m talking to you. Are you listening? What did I just say? Repeat back what I just said. That’s what I thought. You don’t have a hearing problem, you have a *listening* problem. Could you just pay attention for once? - I don’t feel like I’m asking for much. You’re really testing my patience. How many times have we talked about this? I’m getting tired of repeating myself. I’m starting to feel like a broken record. We’ve been through this a thousand times. When are you finally gonna get this through your skull? - It feels like you’re doing this on purpose. If you wanted to, you would. You’re smarter than this. You just need to try harder. Grow up. It’s called being an adult. - Now, don’t you cop an attitude with me. You’re always so dramatic. I don’t wanna hear it. Stop whining. Tell your excuses to someone who cares. Why do I even bother? If you wanted to change, you would. - Oh, you’re “struggling” with your mental health? You’re not doing this on purpose? You want the benefit of the doubt? You’re screaming for support at the top of your lungs? I. Don’t. Wanna. Hear. It. (So I won’t.)
@danidonovan my ex used to say all these things to me and i would always say im sorry it’s my adhd i can’t help myself. trust me i would if i could. and the same response is always “you can’t blame everything on your adhd”
@danidonovan My favorite: "aRe YoU LiStEnInG??"
All the child is hearing when that is happening is that the parent does not like him/her. That’s all, it is immediately affecting their sense of self. It’s abusive, I don’t care what anyone says, it’s abuse. Doesn’t matter if the child isn’t listening. They were not designed to just follow orders, you have to try and see where they are coming from. That is the sign of being a mature more intelligent person is not seeking to be listened to by “someone less superior” but try to meet them from where they are coming from….. and they are more superior, because they are in this high learning emotional sensory state, it is our job to connect with them, to try make this learning more comfortable - and to understand what that child is taking in when you are using words like that….. now who is the dumb one ? I thought you were so logical so .. start meeting that child on an emotional level and they will respond better- I know it’s hard at all times. But that’s why parents need supports. There are people who LOVE child care. Because they understand children. The fact that there is no place to swing in, drop your kids off and know they would be safe in this world with buildings and people. I don’t know how that isn’t possible ? Blows my mind . But I’m simple . Trying to figure out ways to make things happen, in this system. Because when parents are offered support and leave and come back and have access to community and knowledge, we can avert some of these abusive instances, right ? It’s important. We all need support in this. We can’t be all. To everyone. We are a community and we should be promoting help within our society, because right now it’s a little individualistic ….. and impossible to afford
@danidonovan Or when people start talking to you and have not made sure to get your attention first. I’m in my head , I don’t know you are talking at me
@danidonovan My ADHD daughter gets like this with me even when I am trying to focus on what she’s saying. I think it cuts both ways.
@danidonovan Thanks for reminding me of the joy of finding a partner and friends like @jlange118 who love me and my faults, who listen to my rambling stories and repeat themselves as needed even when I'm exhausting #Neurodivergent
@danidonovan What should I do if my therapist told me to listen to her? Because apparently I'm not listening to anyone
@danidonovan The moment I realized lying to make someone just go away 🤯
@danidonovan Has anyone experienced the reverse when you, the ADHDer (or in my case ADHDAu), says something as clearly as possible and is still either misunderstood or not understood at all?
@danidonovan This is a huge reminder for me. Thank you. Love, Mom