“My pronouns are sex-based, just like the cancer that’s killing me.” My friend is dying of uterine cancer & has a mic drop response if anyone dares ask her pronouns. I said good-bye to her yesterday. 💔😢 She handed me a paper explaining her wishes. Donations “shall not be typical LGBTQ+… charities. TERF charities only.” And then suggested we donate to @icons_women in her memory. Born in the 1960’s my friend grew up in a time & place not friendly to homosexuals. She made her own way in the world - using her wits, her many talents, & her grit to become successful in a male-dominated career. She told me stories of lesbian potlucks and huge women’s music festivals in the 80’s & 90’s. She played a mean game of softball and looked damn sexy on her bike. Then she watched in horror as men invaded the Bay Area lesbian community and women’s sports. She eventually found her way to our group and a new community. She was well enough to travel to the ICONS conference in July where she met her heros: @Riley_Gaines_ @coachblade @HJoyceGender She’s one of the most caring people I’ve ever met. Even as her body shuts down and her days are fewer than the fingers on one hand, she thinks mostly of the loved ones in her life, especially her girlfriend, and how she can make things easier for everyone. She’s bummed she won’t see the end of our fight for single-sex spaces. As I hugged her one last time she said, “Keep fighting.” We will. 🫡
Normally I’m up for a little back and forth with folks I disagree with. But my friend is dying and I’ve had enough. Good night y’all. ❤️ Stay classy TRAs.
@WomenAreReals @jk_rowling @SF_TERF_CENTRAL @Martina @AmandaKovattana @aVeryGoodTyrone @SashaAguilar69 @cynthia4senate @XxtraEstroGenny @SherryMeekBrown @AirDhatu I'm so sorry for your loss. Your friend sounds like she was an amazing woman. She is from a similar era, to me But, I live in TERF Island. I will definitely make a donation, in her memory. Do you mind if I ask what her name is? Thank you xxx
@WomenAreReals @jk_rowling @SF_TERF_CENTRAL @Martina @AmandaKovattana @aVeryGoodTyrone @SashaAguilar69 @cynthia4senate @XxtraEstroGenny @SherryMeekBrown @AirDhatu Why does your friend feel the need to bring her transphobia into her cancer diagnosis? It makes her very unsympathetic
@WomenAreReals @jk_rowling @SF_TERF_CENTRAL @Martina @AmandaKovattana @aVeryGoodTyrone @SashaAguilar69 @cynthia4senate @XxtraEstroGenny @SherryMeekBrown @AirDhatu Imagine wasting your entire life consumed with hatred for people you've never met who have no impact on your existence.
@WomenAreReals @jk_rowling @SF_TERF_CENTRAL @Martina @AmandaKovattana @aVeryGoodTyrone @SashaAguilar69 @cynthia4senate @XxtraEstroGenny @SherryMeekBrown @AirDhatu It sounds as though she is a formidable woman. I’m sorry for her suffering and your impending loss! 💔 I wish your friend peace and the knowledge that we will continue fighting for recognition that lesbians are female people exclusively attracted to other female people.