Do you have a father wound? How your relationship with your father impacts you:
Our relationship with our father is one of our first relationships. How he interacts with you, meets (or does not your needs), and how he copes with life will greatly impact how you cope and view yourself.
Many fathers carry their own shame and generational trauma. Even the most well-meaning fathers will project these wounds onto their children.
A person who grows up with a father who's emotionally shut down and unable to connect might find themselves in relationships with emotionally unavailable people.
A person who grows up with a father who is hyper-critical and conditional with how he loves his children, might end up with with anxiety and crippling perfectionism.
A person who grew up with a father who left or was inconsistent in showing up might end up with severe trust issues. Or, a deep fear of abandonment.
A person who grew up with a father who went into rage cycles might also find themselves overcome with anger. Or, might shut down and avoid expressing their feelings to others out of fear.
A person who grew up with a father who relied on their child for marital advice or shared to0 many sensitive things (ex: having an affair, the sex life with the child's mother) might have patterns of oversharing. And, of not having clear boundaries.
@Theholisticpsyc Yep. I have anger issues and my sister is completely shut down and never expresses her feelings
@Theholisticpsyc I grew up with all these fathers - he’s the 5-in-1 package 🤭 - Curious to read the thread to the end now