We’re raised to believe it’s wrong to hurt someone’s feelings when it’s a natural part of life. It’s unkind to hide things, to withhold our true feelings, or to stay with people because we fear hurting them. The truth is kind even when it doesn’t feel good.
@Theholisticpsyc I agree little worse than someone thinking something they’re not telling you and being silently disrespectful-just come out with it-gently as possible.
@Theholisticpsyc @coastalmom11 I was raised not to hurt people’s feelings. I’ve lived by that for six decades. It means not to be hurtful and/or harmful to others. Like everything else, it’s highly dependent on the circumstances. Has your friend just lost a loved one and in deep emotional pain? 1/
@Theholisticpsyc People may feel pain as we grow and become committed to ourselves. They’re used to us being over-focused on them.
@Theholisticpsyc Being incapable of being truthful will lead one to become passive aggressive.
@Theholisticpsyc We shouldn’t withhold the truth out of fear of hurting someone’s feelings. This doesn’t mean to throw hurtful truths around without restraint. It means to tell the truth im a considerate but truthful way.
@Theholisticpsyc When you take ownership of how someone else feels you compromise your own values and identity to a certain degree. It’s important to say how you truly feel, regardless of the outcome.
@Theholisticpsyc Agree - Honesty is the best policy. While it's important to be kind, sometimes the truth hurts. But it's better to be upfront than to live a lie.
@Theholisticpsyc Brutal honesty can be exactly that: brutal Everyone has a different view on things If we share ours, we should do it with the intention of helping others, not so that we “get it off our chest” Keeping some of our thoughts to ourselves is part of being kind
@Theholisticpsyc You cannot hurt other people by words. They can be hurt only by their INTERNAL REPRESENTATION of the event. Imagine meeting a person who speaks language you don't understand. They can say whatever they want, there will be no emotional response in you. It's about perception.