There’s this whole corner of parenting TikTok that is against playing with your kids and it bums me out, man
@Komaniecki_R I'd put money on her having at least as many biokids as you do. I'd also put money on her doing more childcare than you ever would.
@Komaniecki_R Don’t even pretend for a second you played with your parents things like cars and making mud pies or running around… no one I knew growing up PLAYED with their parents we all made our own fun. But WE DID hangout with our parents on trips and walks and stuff all the time
@Komaniecki_R there’s so many awful things about her video but perhaps the worst is the idea of juggling Indian food with a book in bed. the thought of cleaning curry off of bedsheets is nightmare fuel
@Komaniecki_R Never trust people who pretend to like Indian food and she is also an ugly 🐷
@Komaniecki_R I kinda agree with her. She still spends plenty of time with them, just when they want to “play” they know how to entertain themselves. My parents were very similar, they never played with me but we spent a lot of quality time together learning, making things, hanging out etc.
@Komaniecki_R Kids imitate you. You are not supposed to imitate them. You do your ‘work’ and they do their ‘work’ nearby or alongside. Work could be play or *actual* work. Most Childhood pedagogys all recognise this is part of attachment
Here's the problem I understand where she's coming from but I also do not understand. I have children and I have played with my kids. I've also told my children no go play. I've also cherished the moments that I've played with my kids. The thing that you can never get back is time. While reading a book and eating food in bed sounds like a great time it's not a great memory. I look at my kids and see how fast that they're growing there's a lot of things I regret not doing with them or doing for them. I look at the word no that I said to them quite a bit. I have congestive heart failure the odds of me making it 5 years since being diagnosed a year and a year and a half ago not very good. The odds of me making it 10 years even worse. I haven't been on the medication you're supposed to be on because I have low blood pressure and that medication lowers my blood pressure. Not that I'm giving up not that I'm not fighting not that I want to die. Knowing that death could knock on my door at any time. What could reading One More story to my kids at night have hurt because I was tired. What harm would 30 more minutes of Barbie I've done because my TV show was on. I don't remember the TV shows that I had to watch. But knowing my time is near makes me wonder what memories I left for my kids.
@Komaniecki_R This is why kids can’t read anymore. I’m not kidding.