when i was a kid we had to go to a church food bank to receive free ramen, mac & cheese, hamburger helper (without the hamburger) & other such items. I never felt "less than" but I also never knew who provided what we were gifted. The church bought my mom a car one time when she didn't have enough to replace the one that broke down. It was an old, green chevy nova (now it would be a classic, but at the time it was "ugly".) I never knew who did that either. Someone once bought me a pair of pajamas simply because they thought i should have some and another person bought me a backpack so I could join my friends camping. They saw me. They didn't put me or my mom down. They saw me and they wanted me to have something good. Today I saw posts of people questioning moms who use foodstamps and yet have their nails done. My mom was mistreated by her grandfather, her father, and my dad who left. Now I find myself thinking back and if my mom had makeup or nice nails, I would look back at her now and say "good. you deserve it. life has kicked you down and you deserve a little something to hold your head high about. Go on and feel pretty. Because you are beautiful to me." So you can sit there and judge that woman using food stamps and having nice nails. Or you can ask her if there's anything she needs or simply just tell her she looks nice. Chances are she needs to hear it. Dignity - everyone deserves it. Spread a little
@EricTAuthor I've used food banks and food stamps before. I bought a couple "fun" items for my kid. The rest was meal plans and severely budgeted. I've also worked since I was 12 (FYI also when I was receiving stamps)
@EricTAuthor Awwwwwwww to hear you now, Your Mama was a Queen and you make her proud.
@EricTAuthor Well Eric, it looks to me that your Mom raised a fine man in you. God Bless her and her family.
@EricTAuthor Absolutely beautiful. Your remarks about people fulfilling your needs, about "ask what she needs or simply compliment her".. For my fellow Christians: THAT is Christ-like love.
@EricTAuthor Also, just because a woman has "nice nails" doesn't mean she's pissing $$ away. I do my own, bc even though we're working class & don't have a lot, I like to look nice. I wish I had time/energy to be that concerned about other ppl. Kindness is free.