the thing about tom is that he will always be dependent on shiv - like in this ep him talking to shiv about naomi obviously but what gets me is that he sees their marriage as literally an extension of himself...like him refusing to acknowledge shiv in public like shiv did in s3 +
i feel like him trying to get in the family isn't just a social climber thing but he's trying to prove to both logan and shiv that he's a worthy match for shiv...and tom literally going after other women so he can feel like he's fulfilled shiv's request for an open relationship
and shiv knows it! her saying tom wants her because he knows he's not good enough for her ohhhh yeah tom loves the chase so much which is why i come to the conclusion that he just loves shiv so much he would do any twisted thing to win her love and they'll never divorce